Fucking
Not all guys enjoy fucking. If it is not something you want to do, you should not let anyone pressure you into doing it. If you have never tried fucking, but would like to, start slow. It does take a little practice. If you are experienced at fucking, ride ‘em cowboy!
Getting fucked
Getting fucked is often referred to as bottoming or being the bottom. Of course, that doesn’t mean you have to physically be on the bottom. If you have never been fucked before, start slowly. Foreplay always helps. This can include having your cock sucked, getting rimmed (having the other guy lick your hole), and gently sliding a lubed finger in and out of your ass. These things can help relax your anal sphincter. When you initially take a cock in your ass, especially if it is the first time or this is something you do rarely, your sphincter muscle will spasm causing some pain. Slide the cock out of your ass, relax, wait for the spasm to pass, and then try again. After a few tries your ass will get used to the cock, your sphincter will relax, and you can start actually fucking. You should try different positions to find the one that works best. Any position where your legs are spread and your hips are flexed is likely to be most comfortable. This can be on your back with your legs spread, on your hands and knees with your legs apart, or straddling the other guy while sitting on his cock. The most important things when getting fucked are to relax and enjoy it. If you are tense or feeling unsure of yourself or the situation, you will likely find it very difficult to get fucked.
A few things to keep in mind when it comes to getting fucked:
- Go slow – if you are new to getting fucked, rushing it will be painful.
- Use lots and lots of lube. You really can’t have too much lube when you are getting fucked. If you are using latex condoms, make sure the lube is water-based or silicone-based.
- Consider douching before getting fucked. Generally, you will not have stool in your rectum, but depending on how deep his cock goes things can get messy. The easiest and most popular douche to use consists of a rubber bulb with a nozzle that can be screwed on. Fill the bulb with luke warm water, attach the nozzle and apply some lube. Slide the nozzle into your ass and squeeze the bulb to force water into your rectum. Make sure you are near the toilet, as you will then need to sit down and expel the water. This will rinse out your rectum and make getting fucked less messy. Never douche with anything other than water. You can learn more about douching in HUGO’s “My Anus” section.
- If getting fucked is something you enjoy, the more you do it, the easier it gets. Soon your sphincter will get used to taking cocks and will not spasm. Once your ass is used to cock, you can just lube up, mount up, and ride.
Getting fucked without a condom has the highest risk of HIV infection. This is because getting fucked allows cum and pre-cum to be delivered directly to the lining of the rectum. If HIV is present in the cum, the virus will be able to cross the lining of the rectum and infect the immune cells in the tissues below. Condoms provide a barrier, preventing cum from coming in contact with the rectum. HIV pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) is another way to reduce the risk of HIV infection. In this case, HIV-negative guys take anti-HIV medications called antiretrovirals. These medications will reduce the chances of HIV infecting the immune cells in the rectum. You can read more about these strategies in HUGO’s “HIV Prevention” section.
Getting fucked without a condom can also transmit gonorrhea, Chlamydia, and syphilis. Gonorrhea and Chlamydia in the rectum are often asymptomatic, but can cause rectal discharge and discomfort. Having these bacteria will draw more immune cells to the rectum making individuals in turn more susceptible to HIV infection.
Fucking another guy
Fucking another guy is often referred to as topping or being the top. Of course, this doesn’t mean you have to physically be on top. While fucking another guy might seem simple, just stick in your dick and starting banging away, being good at it takes a little effort. Foreplay always helps. This can include sucking each other’s cocks, rimming your partner (licking his hole), and gently sliding a lubed finger in and out of his ass. These things can help relax his anal sphincter and make it easier to take your cock. Pay attention to your partner. If he winces or seems uncomfortable, stop. Ask where he is at, and if it would help to change positions. Being a top also doesn’t mean you have to be dominant. Fucking can be very mutual, or the guy who is the bottom may take charge. Try different positions; mixing it up will make it more fun. And be sure to use lots of lube, you really can’t have too much lube when fucking. If you are using latex condoms, make sure the lube is either water-based or silicone-based.
Fucking another guy without a condom carries a significant risk of HIV infection. This is because HIV is concentrated in the fluids and mucus of the rectum. If during fucking these fluids and mucus are pushed into your urethra (the hole you pee through) or, for guys who are uncircumcised, are deposited on the inner side of your foreskin, HIV can cross the lining of these tissues and infect the immune cells just below. Condoms provide a barrier, preventing HIV in the rectal fluids and mucus from entering your urethra or coming in contact with your inner foreskin. If you are circumcised, there will be less risk, but the risk is not eliminated. HIV pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) is another way to reduce the risk of HIV infection. In this case, HIV-negative guys take anti-HIV medications called antiretrovirals. These medications will reduce the chances of HIV infecting the immune cells under the lining of the urethra and foreskin. You can read more about these strategies in HUGO’s “HIV Prevention” section.
Fucking another guy without a condom can also transmit gonorrhea, Chlamydia, and syphilis. Gonorrhea and Chlamydia in the rectum are often asymptomatic and can be introduced into the urethra while fucking. Having these bacteria will draw more immune cells to the urethra making individuals in turn more susceptible to HIV infection.